Saturday, December 27, 2014

Self Reflection or Self Review for the New Year

The end of the year is a great time to do an exercise in self reflection or as others call it, a life review. Here are some steps and suggestions based on the work of Steven Levine, Rebecca Dixon, and an anonymous contributor to WikiHow.

Take some deep breaths. A quick body scan where you pay attention to and relax each body from head to toe may help.

Identify Positive Memories
Celebrate the goodness in your life. These can be major life events or small things. Give yourself credit for the kind acts you performed and your generosity. Savor the triumphs and joys.

Focus on Gratitude
[Focus on the positive things that came from other beings or situations. Gratitude meditation, regular gratitude lists or letters to people you are grateful to can help you to internalize gratitude.

Forgive Others and Yourself
Approach people and hear their responses. This may not be approval, just acceptance. This is both for you and others. If they (or you) haven’t changed yet change is unlikely.

Making Amends
Take responsibility for your behavior and make amends when it doesn’t hurt you or others. This can be financial amends, apologies, taking blame or just asking what you can do to make things better. If it is impossible to make amends send positive well wishes.

Take the life review slow and easy and don’t force things.   Build a foundation of gratitude and mindfulness before exploring possibilities of forgiveness and making amends. Only going through these steps in a full hearted way will lead to peace for you and others.

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